Have you ever listened to words of the pina colada song?

Sometimes we kick against the post when we’re with someone for a long time. We look past the core and see only the surface. The everyday stuff sits like a layer of dust, covering up the spark. Years and shared experiences get sandblasted to nothing when you forget to listen, to talk.

I watched the movie Frida the other day and fell in love with Frida Kahlo’s husband, Diego – this big man who was completely bohemian, filled with a lust for life, a passion for everything from food and painting to politics and philosophy. That lust for life made him extraordinary – he drew people to him and along with him with the sheer force of his will.

But everyone has that passion in them, some people are just quieter about it, or don’t express it quite so elaborately. Everyone has the ability to move people, to move themselves. Everyone is a little extraordinary.

If you’re sitting across the table from someone who seems to have lost their veneer, take a moment to see through the layers. Listen for a moment to that silent passion bursting in their heart. Remember the moments that their lust for life was like a full rainbow halo around them. Lighting your life in a wash of beauty and love.

There’s a guy who’s developed a love canvas. It’s a painting kit that has a canvas you can stretch out on the floor (or any sort of flat surface) and a selection of skin friendly paint. What you do is cover yourself and your lover in paint and then make love on the canvas. In the end you have a stunning abstract work of art to hang on your wall and remind you of a perfectly divine secret moment you and your lover shared.

Our memories should be like that. On the wall. Up front and in your face – reminding us always to connect with the core.

Listen to the pina colada song here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w5_EIikdFr8

Now go on a date with your lover, friend, your person.